Thomas A. Edison

When you become quiet, it just dawns on you. Thomas A. Edison (1847-1931). We are training people to become quiet when they want to.

We would love to know

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How would you like to use NLP in 2010 to make a change to your life, work and the world?

We have asked the question to ourselves and  some of the people involved in NLP development has also asked the questions.  Here are some of the feedbacks.  What is yours?

“I would like to use NLP to enhance a positive mindset through attention awareness for myself and others, and expand my capabilities by Modelling ” ~ Mark Spencer

“Use NLP to create the essential paradigm shift to grow into the person I want to be with congruence and assist others to enhance their capabilities through Modelling” ~ Sonya Yeh Spencer

“I would love to see the presuppositions of NLP being widely applied in society. Understanding and applying these principles could make a big difference” ~ Karen Moxom

“I would love to introduce year 12 students to the concept of state management, basic techniques to enable them to make the crucial decisions on career, relationships and self identify” ~ Margaret McConnon

Silent Exchanges™ Workshop

Silent Exchanges™ Workshop

When they were handing out Body Language Handbooks — Did they Run Out Before You Got Yours?

We spent a decade teaching Verbal Wizardry… now we’re training nonverbal wizardry! Learn Powerful Non-Verbal Communication & Leadership skills!

Brisbane, Australia – Sunday-Tuesday, 25-27 April 2010

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      Dear Communication Skills Students:

      If you think being a “good communicator” is good enough, think again. Nearly everyone’s a “good communicator,” these days. Nowadays, to own any given situation, you need to have mastered the following valuable secret that is repeatedly uttered behind closed doors amongst the most powerful and influential people around:

The most flexible element in any system… wins.

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Irresistible Voice™ NLP Workshop in Brisbane

Irresistible Voice™ NLP Workshop

Los Angeles, CA — Fri-Sun, Feb. 19-21, 2010

Haarlem, Netherlands — Fri-Sun, Mar. 26-28, 2010

Brisbane, Australia — Thurs-Sat, 22-24 April 2010

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How Anyone Can Create a
Charismatic, Magnetic Voice!

Trainer of Voice Skills & Audio Program Author
Reveals All His Secrets for an Irresistible Voice!

Now  You Can  Easily Develop a Speaking Voice so
Attractive, People Will Start Lining Up to Listen!

Here’s Just Some Of What You’ll Learn… How to:

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NLP not Therapy?

There has been much discussion in some circles, as to whether NLP is Therapy or not, and I love this one. Therapy might be over-used term for some, so it may have meanings attached for each person reading this…

Drawing an analogy from the another common definition – when is a hill a mountain or a so-called mountain actually a hill? There is no universal definition for hills and mountains, as there are differences world-wide on the distinction. There are admissions given for where a hill or mountain has been named by the local people. Some definitions quote height ranges, some quote angles for the structure, and some refer to the abruptness of the structure realting to the surrounding landscape. (See end of this Post for the full analogy). A mountain or hill’s height and name is very subjective.

So is the definition of NLP in relation to therapy, or is it the definition of therapy in relation to NLP….

Early quotes from Grinder and Bandler were all around therapy….

  • NLP was based upon the modeling of 3 major therapists. Not just any therapists, “master psychotherapists“, Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, and Milton Erickson.
  • Grinder and Bandler reviewed many hours of audio and video of the three therapists and spent months imitating how they worked with clients, in order to replicate or ‘model’ the communication patterns which supposedly made these individuals more successful than their peers. The studies were an attempt to identify why particular psychotherapists were so effective with their patients. Rather than take a purely theoretical approach, Bandler and Grinder sought to observe what the therapists were doing, categorize it, and ‘model’ it.
  • “…when you watch and listen to Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson do therapy, they apparently could not be more different … People also report that the experiences of being with them are profoundly different. However, if you examine their behavior and the essential key patterns and sequences of what they do, they are similar. … The same was true of Fritz Perls … when he was operating in what I consider a powerful and effective way, he was using the same sequences of patterns that you will find in their work. – Bandler, R., Grinder, J. (1979). Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming. Moab, UT: Real People Press.. pp. 149 (p.8 (quote).
  • Book name examples – The Structure of Magic I: A Book About Language and Therapy. Bandler, Richard., and John Grinder (1975a). Palo Alto, CA
  • Later associations with ‘therapists’ – They also quote Frank Farrelly, creater of Provocative Therapy.

Therapy (in Greek: θεραπεία), or treatment, is the attempted remediation of a health problem, usually following a diagnosis. In the medical field, it is synonymous with the word “treatment”. With this association, it conjurs up some sort of fixing something. Moving to therapeutic, the definition is a little more open – A therapeutic effect is a consequence of a particular treatment which is judged to be desirable and beneficial.

My opinion….
For me it depends on what I am doing as to whether NLP is Therapy or not. One moment I may be using NLP for some ‘therapy’ with a client, and an hour or two later, I may be using a very different personal process that helps me with sorting out my intentions, and later defining an outcome with my finances, and later still writing an email for a work-related project. When does anything we ever do become therapy? By this definition: A therapeutic effect is a consequence of a particular treatment which is judged to be desirable and beneficial. I could help someone with the photocopier where I work and it be therapeutic – maybe it is if my treatment of my fellow staff members is congruent…. Talking may be therapeutic, and relaxation may also be. Both of these could also cause stress or anxiety under some circumstances.

It is my opinion that you cannot learn anything about NLP (on a training course) without at least being instructed on how to ‘do therapy’ – at least one of the patterns you will be trained in should involve therapy. You may never want to be a therapist, but you will learn ‘therapy’ amongst many other items.

Hill and Mountain analogy notes


Castle Hill in Townsville, Australia is named a Hill, but is often decribed as a mountain in the same sentenceAppreciate the beauty of the city and nearby Magnetic Island from Castle Hill, the rugged mountain that gives Townsville a unique rustic appeal.
The hill is just metres short of being classified as a mountain, and many years ago, a local Townsville man gathered other enthusiasts and they all started carting rocks and cement to the top and tried to make it a mountain so that it could be renamed a mountain. I don’t believe that it ever reached the ‘required’ height – but what book of rules was he reading? This guy could have saved a lot of time and effort if he had read the Dictionary – In the Oxford English Dictionary a mountain is defined as “a natural elevation of the earth surface rising more or less abruptly from the surrounding level and attaining an altitude which, relatively to the adjacent elevation, is impressive or notable.” Based upon this, it had to be natural (his fellow mountain making slaves could be classed as ‘natural’ in some senses, but man-made cement may not be), and it is already abrupt, impressive or notable.


The wikipedia definition of a mountain

In the United States, the following points of measurement have been used and taught in geography classes:
* Flat to 500 feet, base to highest point – Rolling Plain
* Highest point 501 to 999 feet above base – Hill
* Highest point 1000 feet or more above base – Mountain
Whether a landform is called a mountain may depend on usage among the local people. The highest point in San Francisco, California, is called Mount Davidson, notwithstanding its height of 990 feet, which makes it ten feet short of the minimum for a mountain in American appellation.
Other definitions of “mountain” include:
* Height over base of at least 2,500m
* Height over base of 1500-2500m with a slope greater than 2 degrees
* Height over base of 1000-1500m with a slope greater than 5 degrees
* Local (radius 7 km) elevation greater than 300m, or 300-1000m if local (radius 7 km) elevation is greater than 300m
By this definition, mountains cover 64% of Asia, 25% of Europe, 22% of South America, 17% of Australia, and 3% of Africa. As a whole, 24% of the Earth’s land mass is mountainous and 10% of people live in mountainous regions. Most of the world’s rivers are fed from mountain sources, and more than half of humanity depends on mountains for water.

NLP Practice evening, Tuesday 7 July 09, 18:30 – 21:00, New Farm Library

NLP Café Brisbane

Tuesday 7 July 09

Topic: Unconscious Signals, n Steps of Reframe, Words that move people

This is for NLP practitioners and NLP Master practitioners only.
Come and join us for this special session on Tuesday 7 July 09

Topics:
1. Practice – New Code NLP: unconscious signals and N steps of Reframe
2. Practice – From Impossibility to Possibility – Words that move people

RSVP required

Date: Tuesday 7 July 09

Food: Some snacks, fruits, tea and coffee are provided. There is microwave to heat up food as well.

Time:

6:00 – Cafe Door Opens – Feel free to bring some food to heat up in the Microwave, have some snacks or have a cuppa (Tea and Coffee supplied)
6:30 – Session Starts
9:00 – Cafe Closes

Location: New Farm Library, 135 Sydney St, New Farm, (07) 3403 1062

Fees: $5.00 at the door

Benefits

  • For Therapist: Enhance your skills by learning in an environment that stretches your capabilities in New Code NLP and possibly a new process for you.
  • For anyone: Connection with your unconscious.

RSVP Required: NLPCafeBrisbane@gmail.com for more details

NLP not Therapy?

There has been much discussion in some circles, as to whether NLP is Therapy or not, and I love this one. Therapy is an over-used term for some, so it may have meanings attached for each person reading this…

Drawing an analogy from the another common definition – when is a hill a mountain or a so-called mountain actually a hill? There is no universal definition for hills and mountains, as there are differences world-wide on the distinction. There are admissions given for where a hill or mountain has been named by the local people; some definitions quote height ranges, some quote angles for the structure, and some refer to the abruptness of the structure realting to the surrounding landscape. (See end of this Post for the full analogy). A mountain or hill’s <em>height </em>and <em>name </em>is very subjective. So is the definition of NLP in relation to <em>therapy</em>, or is it the definition of <em>therapy </em>in relation to NLP….

Early quotes from Grinder and Bandler were all around <strong>therapy</strong>….

<ul>
<li>NLP was based upon the modeling of 3 major <strong>therapists</strong>. Not just any <strong>therapists</strong>, “master <strong>psychotherapists</strong>”, Fritz Perls, Virginia Satir, and Milton Erickson.
<li>Grinder and Bandler reviewed many hours of audio and video of the three <strong>therapists </strong>and spent months imitating how they worked with clients, in order to replicate or ‘model’ the communication patterns which supposedly made these individuals more successful than their peers. The studies were an attempt to identify why particular <strong>psychotherapists </strong>were so effective with their patients. Rather than take a purely theoretical approach, Bandler and Grinder sought to observe what the <strong>therapists </strong>were doing, categorize it, and ‘model’ it.
<li><em>”…when you watch and listen to Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson do <strong>therapy</strong>, they apparently could not be more different … People also report that the experiences of being with them are profoundly different. However, if you examine their behavior and the essential key patterns and sequences of what they do, they are similar. … The same was true of Fritz Perls … when he was operating in what I consider a powerful and effective way, he was using the same sequences of patterns that you will find in their work.</em> – Bandler, R., Grinder, J. (1979). Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming. Moab, UT: Real People Press.. pp. 149 (p.8 (quote).
<li>Book name examples – The Structure of Magic I: A Book About Language and <strong>Therapy</strong>. Bandler, Richard., and John Grinder (1975a). Palo Alto, CA
<li>Later associations with ‘therapists’ – They also quote Frank Farrelly, creater of Provocative <strong>Therapy</strong>.
</ul>

<em>Therapy </em>or <em>treatment</em>, is the attempted remediation of a health problem, usually following a diagnosis. In the medical field, it is synonymous with the word “treatment”. With this association, it conjurs up some sort of fixing something. Moving to <em>therapeutic</em>, the definition is a little more open – <em>A therapeutic effect is a consequence of a particular treatment which is judged to be desirable and beneficial.</em>

My opinion….
For me it depends on what I am doing as to whether NLP is Therapy or not. One moment I may be using NLP for some ‘therapy’ with a client, and an hour or two later, I may be using a very different personal process that helps me with sorting out my intentions, and later defining an outcome with my finances, and later still writing an email for a work-related project. When does anything we ever do become therapy? By this definition: <em>A therapeutic effect is a consequence of a particular treatment which is judged to be desirable and beneficial.</em> I could help someone with the photocopier where I work and it be therapeutic – maybe it is if my <em>treatment </em>of my fellow staff members is congruent…. Talking may be therapeutic, and relaxation may also be. Both of these could also cause stress or anxiety under some circumstances.

It is my opinion that you cannot learn anything about NLP (on a training course) without at least being instructed on how to ‘do therapy’ – at least one of the patterns you will be trained in should involve therapy. You may never want to be a therapist, but you will learn ‘therapy’ amongst many other items.

<h4>Hill and Mountain analogy notes</h4>
<span style=”color:#803080;”>
Case in point – <a href=”>Castle’” DESIGNTIMESP=23870>http://www.about-australia.com/queensland/townsville/articles/destination-townsville/”>Castle Hill in Townsville, Australia</a> is named a Hill, but is often decribed as a mountain in the same sentence – <em>Appreciate the beauty of the city and nearby Magnetic Island from Castle <strong>Hill</strong>, the rugged <strong>mountain </strong>that gives Townsville a unique rustic appeal.</em><img alt=”" src=”http://i161.photobucket.com/albums/t235/Twirling_Tiger/townsville-1.jpg” title=”Castle Hill, Townsville” class=”alignleft” width=”319″ />
<a href=”The’” DESIGNTIMESP=23873>http://australia.shopsafe.com.au/queensland_attractions/townsville_area_attractions/townsville/castle_hill-historical_sites_heritage_locations.htm”>The hill is just metres short of being classified as a mountain</a>, and many years ago, a local Townsville man gathered other enthusiasts and they all started carting rocks and cement to the top and tried to make it a mountain so that it could be renamed a mountain. I don’t believe that it ever reached the ‘required’ height – but what book of rules was he reading? This guy could have saved a lot of time and effort if he had read the Dictionary – In the Oxford English Dictionary a mountain is defined as <em>”a natural elevation of the earth surface rising more or less abruptly from the surrounding level and attaining an altitude which, relatively to the adjacent elevation, is impressive or notable.”</em> Based upon this, it had to be natural (his fellow mountain making slaves could be classed as ‘natural’ in some senses, but man-made cement may not be), and it is already abrupt, impressive or notable.

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The <a href=”wikipedia’” DESIGNTIMESP=23876>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mountain”>wikipedia definition of a mountain</a>
<span style=”color:#800080;”>
In the United States, the following points of measurement have been used and taught in geography classes:
* Flat to 500 feet, base to highest point – Rolling Plain
* Highest point 501 to 999 feet above base – Hill
* Highest point 1000 feet or more above base – Mountain
Whether a landform is called a mountain may depend on usage among the local people. The highest point in San Francisco, California, is called Mount Davidson, notwithstanding its height of 990 feet, which makes it ten feet short of the minimum for a mountain in American appellation.
Other definitions of “mountain” include:
* Height over base of at least 2,500m
* Height over base of 1500-2500m with a slope greater than 2 degrees
* Height over base of 1000-1500m with a slope greater than 5 degrees
* Local (radius 7 km) elevation greater than 300m, or 300-1000m if local (radius 7 km) elevation is greater than 300m
By this definition, mountains cover 64% of Asia, 25% of Europe, 22% of South America, 17% of Australia, and 3% of Africa. As a whole, 24% of the Earth’s land mass is mountainous and 10% of people live in mountainous regions. Most of the world’s rivers are fed from mountain sources, and more than half of humanity depends on mountains for water.
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NLP Cafe Brisbane, 3-Mar-2009

NLP Café Brisbane

Tuesday, 3-Mar-2009

Topic: Open Coaching / Mentoring (Public Workshop) and Schedule of activities

This is for both practitioners and public.

As described in the 26-Feb-09 session… This is a special session for NLP Practitioners who want to participate in the
Open Coaching / Mentoring activities, but this week with clients attending.
It is also great for those who are new to or know little about NLP to taste the way NLP coaching can be with a mentored coach. You can also sample what NLP is like.

Schedule

6:10 Registration

6:15 Introduction

6:30 Start (No late arrival at this point)

7:45 Feedback from client

8:00 Practitioner Debrief / disussion

8:30 Cafe Close

 

Benefits

  • For Therapist: Enhance your skills by learning in a coaching / mentoring environment
  • For Couples, Parents and Managers: if your not a practioner, come as a client
  • For Individuals: Whether or not you are a practitioner, you can come as a client for some free coaching or therapy!

RSVP Required: NLPCafeBrisbane@gmail.com for more details

 

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The structure of magic: A book about language and therapy (I and II)

The structure of magic: A book about Language and Therapy (I and II)

If you truly want to master the use of Meta Model, learn them from the originators of NLP in their first published NLP books.  These books establish the distinctions between the linguistic elements of the meta model for language, GDD, TDS, some of which are dropped or misrepresented in other books.

A must have for all NLP Practitioners, successful communicators and therapists who want to bring change to their clients.

Reviewed By Mark Spencer and Sonya Yeh Spencer, Certified Advanced NLP Coaches.

Emotional Choice – Lessons from the great Professor Albert Ellis

Do you know you have a choice to be calm rather than feel stressed? Professor Albert Ellis’s Rational Emotive Therapy & Philosophy, just like NLP, had demonstrated this choice.

We often live by many rules in our life. These rules express themselves Read the rest of this entry »

A Theory of Everything: An Integral Vision for Business, Politics, Science and Spirituality

I enjoy having a theory that covers everything, at least at a broad 50,000ft view, and one which also makes some sense right down to the microcosms that we live with. It is efficient to have a unifying theory, but it also makes sense. Having already studied Spiral Dynamics which for me makes sense of all the different theories of human behaviour, T.O.E. provides a wider view. Ken Wilber explains in a lot of detail how the All Quadrants, All Levels and eventually All Lines works as a model and it makes a lot of sense. He also describes many of the institutions, cultural movements and other things and shows how they have a vMeme view, rather than AQAL.

Ken Wilber’s book, A Theory of Everything will either give you the answers to how systems and concepts integrate, or it will give you more questions than what you started with. Either way, you will be better for it.

The NLP Pattern of the Month: The Change Cycle- by Robert Dilts

To implement the Belief Change Cycle, lay out separate locations for each of the states associated with the ‘landscape’ of belief change. This essentially involves having the person put himself or herself as fully as possible into the experience and physiology associated with each of these aspects of the natural cycle of belief change Read the rest of this entry »

NLP and PTSD

http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk atricle Excerpts… Mar 30 2009 By Craig McQueen

DURING his military career, Andy Lorimer saw action in warzones and troublespots including Iraq, the Balkans and Northern Ireland.

….He said: “I was having nightmares, flashbacks, insomnia. My behaviour was very odd. I was sent for evaluation by a psychiatrist and I was diagnosed with PTSD.”

Medically discharged in 2003 with a war pension, Andy then had to try to get help…..

….started getting better thanks to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).

NLP examines patterns of behaviour and the experiences that underpins them and aims to help people change their behaviour through self-awareness and effective communication.

See the full atricle

Public Workshop – Tuesday, 14 October 08 Topic: From where you are to where you want to be – Redirect your mind!

The Journey of 1000 miles starts with one step, but if you ended up in the wrong place, all the hard work becomes wasted efforts. The secret to get to the right destination starts with heading off on Read the rest of this entry »

Questions that create contrast

By Sonya Yeh Spencer,  Word count: 183
A client came to me because she just can not decide if she should start her own business and leave the family business, that her father wishes she can take over one day. She has been struggling with making a decision for six months, and she was feeling extremely stressed, guilty with an array of self doubts.
One of the exercises I took her through sent her spinning in her head and got her to think of her dilemma from a very different perspective. Here are the questions that I asked her Read the rest of this entry »

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